We Want Impossible Things.
Get over it.
Have my cake and eat it too.
Wisdom in a nutshell. Concise advice that seems simple.
“Have my cake and eat it too” is an old phrase meaning
—we want to enjoy the best of both worlds.
—we want to enjoy the fruit without putting in the labor.
—we want the pleasure but not the pain.
In Willy Wonka & the Chocolate Factory, Veruca Salt says, “I want the world. I want the whole world. I want to lock it all up in my pocket. It’s my bar of chocolate. Give it to me now.”
We want what we want. And we want it now.
—I want to eat these donuts and pray to God that my migraines won’t come back.
—I want to feel love, but I don’t choose it.
—I want my relationship with my mother to change, but all I think about is how SHE needs to change.
You know what I think?
—You can have impossible things.
—You can get over it.
—You can have your cake and eat it too.
But it takes effort.
It takes time.
It takes improved habits, improved thinking, improved feeling.
Are YOU willing to put in the effort? Are you willing to let it take time?
Keep your HOPE alive. Keep striving for the results you want. Remember you are in for the long game. It’s okay if it doesn’t happen according to your time frame.
I don’t eat healthy one day and watch my A1C numbers decrease.
I don’t say “I love you” to my husband every day for a week and hear him say it back.
I manage myself but don’t expect others to manage themselves.
I’m changing.
I’m moving in the right direction.
I’m becoming.
Want the seemingly impossible, but ask yourself, “Am I willing to put in the effort and am I willing to be in this for the long game?”
This concludes my thoughts on my migraine journey. I know it’s not over. I’m in for the long game. I haven’t given up. I still have hope. I still have questions. I still don’t have answers.
Some things we have more control over than others. But we always have control. We always have power. Our control/power lies in the way we think, feel, and act. Don’t be a victim of your circumstance. Figure out where your agency lies and make small strides in that area.
Thoughts I’m still working on in this journey:
—This is supposed to be happening.
—My migraine is my teacher.
—How I am thinking about my migraines right now is not wrong. (For example: Sometimes I think, “This shouldn’t be happening.” I know this isn’t a helpful thought because I’m arguing with reality. It is happening. But I’m not going to berate myself for feeling that way. I’m going to give myself grace.)
Feelings I’m still working on in this journey:
—Acceptance (It’s happening.)
—Inquisitive (What more can I learn about my body and the connections between my pain and my lifestyle?)
—Empathy (For others with chronic pain.)
—Patience
Actions I’m still working on in this journey:
—Managing my lifestyle
—Seeking information
—Checking in with my intuition and questioning my intuition
I want the miracle. I want prayers to be answered. I want the magic wand, the genie in the bottle, the happily ever after. I also want to live a full life. I want the yin and the yang. I want to enjoy being me. Watching myself learn and grow and master and feeling surprised with things I’d never thought of before. I want empathy and compassion for others and if my journey is the way that leads me to that, then I must welcome it.
Good luck/skills on your journey. Sending love, Lori
