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I recently coached a client consecutively on two things: her husband and her weight. After the weight coaching she said, “I liked that one better because I feel like I have more control over it.”
What I’d like to offer is that YOU have control over every aspect of your life. Everything is an Inside Job. How you show up is up to you. Pandemics-inside job. Husbands-inside job. Kids-inside job. Boss-inside job. Weight-inside job. Happiness-inside job.
Pandemics get to do whatever the heck they want. Husbands get to do whatever the heck they want. You get to do whatever the heck you want. That, my friend, is the human experience. You don’t have to change anyone or anything. The power lies in knowing that YOU are in charge of you. You can choose to be happy, loving, healthy, wealthy, or whatever it is you want if you are willing. And it starts with the way we think about our lives – the situations and the people.
An “Inside Job” means you are in charge. You don’t expect someone else to make it better. You don’t blame someone else when it goes wrong. You have everything you need inside of you to handle each situation or to figure out how to handle any situation. When you realize this, it gives you back your power. This may seem like a big responsibility, but do you really want to give control of your happiness to another person? That it’s an “Inside Job” is the good news!
I recently read a statement by Mary Ann Young. She said, “I have been blessed to keep my feelings quite calm.” Often times we think others are successful because they were just born that way. That they are a “unicorn.” That they are a rare breed who are just lucky to possess the traits needed to be peaceful or wealthy or sociable. You can be calm and peaceful all the time. You can make six figures. You can have all the friends in the world. But, you must know, it is an inside job.
