Guess what? Whatever I did worked!
I’m unsure exactly what made the difference or if it was a cumulative effect. In February I started to implement the changes. On March 1, I began tracking the changes. That month I felt the migraine like clock work but it never got above a .5 on the pain scale. I knew it was there but it wasn’t debilitating me. I did all the Act Fast advice I’d been given.
Cue the Hope!
I sometimes wonder if the small and simple things I do make a difference.
For my health:
—Does water intake really matter?
—Sleep?
—Breaks from my cellphone?
In my relationships:
—Do acknowledgments at the crossroads really matter?
—Positive words?
—Expressing gratitude?
Sometimes obvious results are slow to see.
It’s hard to see what is changing in the body for our health.
It is hard to see what is changing in the heart for our relationships.
When something goes well, celebrate!
Because something else is going to be around the corner that is disconcerting. Not to disappoint you, but you know something else always comes along to keep you on your toes, to keep you learning, and to help you integrate changes. We know we are going to feel all the feels that the next disconcerting thing brings—-worry, fear, disappointment. Often we don’t celebrate because we allow ourselves to look ahead at what might be coming next and feel those feelings instead.
I had two choices.
Feel present celebratory feelings: hope, happiness, relief
Feel future feelings: doubt, fear, angst
Did that really happen? Was it a fluke? Will it be back next month?
My good old friend Migraine was back in full force in April. I felt disappointed, sad, baffled.
I was glad I’d allowed myself the good feelings. We can choose to live in 100% negative emotions or embrace the 50/50 of life.
Do I celebrate the small victories in my relationship or focus solely on the disappointing aspects?
