Unconditional love means you love someone no matter what they do.
I kind of alluded to this in the “About” section of my blog, but there is an issue in my relationship with my husband that has been a bit of a thorn in my side. In January 2019, I decided the subject was taboo. I wasn’t going to think about it, focus on it, or address it.
Over the 33 years we have been married, I have brought the conversation up many times. When I talked with him about it, I spoke from a place of frustration, exasperation, defensiveness, sorrow, anger, and/or blame. Acting from those feelings never brought me the results I desired.
Feelings do impact how we act which then affects our results.
If you go into a job interview feeling confident, then you have a better chance of showing up as your best possible self in the interview. If you go into a job interview doubting yourself and your ability to do the job, the interviewee will see that in your actions and your words.
It’s been 13 months and I finally felt ready to talk to my husband about the elephant in the room. I was feeling unconditional love for him and for me. The conversation went better than it ever has before.
Maybe you hate your job and you want to leave it. Don’t leave from a place of hate. Because you know what happens? You find something to hate about your next job.
Your next husband.
The next city you live in.
The next family reunion.
Fill in the blank.
Maybe you let your married daughter’s family move back in with you because they fell on hard times. Now it’s time for them to move out. If you confront them about the situation from a place of desperation, overwhelm, and/or annoyance, the conversation is going to go differently than if you come from a place of love.
Get to a place of love first. Then decide what your next step will be. It may just take a few minutes to get there. It may take 13 months. It’s worth the time.
